The Mirror
This week has really had a lot of ups and downs. The past few days I’ve been a little introspective. I’ve been thinking about something that I wrote a few months ago:
"In any hardship, or struggle, there can come a time when frustration and pride will lead you to seek other tangible targets. This turns out to be those nearest to you. It's in a man's nature to fix things. We want to find the root of the trouble. And, when you’re weighed down with frustration and self-doubt, the mirror is a tough place to face. You tend to look elsewhere.
At some point, you just know that everyone has contributed to your downfall. Your ex-boss for throwing you under the bus. Your co-workers for not standing up for you. Your wife for not "understanding the stress" you’re going through. Your kids, who don't understand that you just, need to focus on feeling sorry for yourself.
Are you any closer to the mirror?
Am I?
The events that caused your struggle may, or may not have been your fault. But every action you take after the incident is your responsibility. True, there can be many outside forces pulling at you, but your choices in how you handle these influences are yours alone.
My advice to myself and to anyone that might be interested, is take control of the things you can control. Your anger, self-doubt, and frustrations are all yours. That is something you can control. No matter how hard you will it, you can't control the emotions of others. This includes family, spouse, and children.
Remember that they are in this with you. They have fears and concerns of their own. They are watching how you deal with this struggle, and they will react as you react. It's one of the laws of physics; every action has a reaction. You must keep this in mind. Of course this means added stress, but that can also be an important part in getting your focus back on track. Be proactive not reactive."
I haven’t been able to look that guy in the Mirror a whole lot lately. The same old demons keep popping up. I get all excited about a posible way out of this whole situation, only to have it blow up in my face.
It get tough at times.
But I’m still trying.
"In any hardship, or struggle, there can come a time when frustration and pride will lead you to seek other tangible targets. This turns out to be those nearest to you. It's in a man's nature to fix things. We want to find the root of the trouble. And, when you’re weighed down with frustration and self-doubt, the mirror is a tough place to face. You tend to look elsewhere.
At some point, you just know that everyone has contributed to your downfall. Your ex-boss for throwing you under the bus. Your co-workers for not standing up for you. Your wife for not "understanding the stress" you’re going through. Your kids, who don't understand that you just, need to focus on feeling sorry for yourself.
Are you any closer to the mirror?
Am I?
The events that caused your struggle may, or may not have been your fault. But every action you take after the incident is your responsibility. True, there can be many outside forces pulling at you, but your choices in how you handle these influences are yours alone.
My advice to myself and to anyone that might be interested, is take control of the things you can control. Your anger, self-doubt, and frustrations are all yours. That is something you can control. No matter how hard you will it, you can't control the emotions of others. This includes family, spouse, and children.
Remember that they are in this with you. They have fears and concerns of their own. They are watching how you deal with this struggle, and they will react as you react. It's one of the laws of physics; every action has a reaction. You must keep this in mind. Of course this means added stress, but that can also be an important part in getting your focus back on track. Be proactive not reactive."
I haven’t been able to look that guy in the Mirror a whole lot lately. The same old demons keep popping up. I get all excited about a posible way out of this whole situation, only to have it blow up in my face.
It get tough at times.
But I’m still trying.
posted by Justa Dad at 1:24 AM
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